i literally procrastinate talking to my friends like it hits me “oh shit i havent talked to that friend in a while” and im like “yeah ill have to do that later” and then i dont
then i feel really guilty about it and [AVOIDANCE INTENSIFIES]
Then it’s like a month later, and I’m just sitting there like, if I never speak to them maybe they’ll just forget I ever existed.
Periodic reminder when this kind of post comes up that being my friend means never having to say “sorry i dropped off the face of the earth for a few weeks/months/years” there. I get it. I promise. I vanish sometimes too and then get all avoidant about it. I’ll understand if you need to do the same, and I’ll be here when you come back. Team Weird Avoidant People Who Are Sort of Terrible At Friendship But Trying Really Hard needs to stick together.
Anonymous said: heyy! im a user over @ da/twitter and out of curiosity and if you dont mind me asking, how many languages do you know/speak/write in/etc.? i follow you plus some of your friends and i know that many of you speak languages other than english! so was just a bit curious ! uvu
oh my god i have no idea when i got this message so i’m sorry for the late reply but um!! english is my mother tongue but i also grew up speaking cantonese at home, i learned mandarin for years but it’s gone down the drain now, and i can manage basic-intermediate japanese!
hey like, if you happen to do something abusive because of your mental illness
you still gotta apologize for it????
you still have to accept responsibility???
you can’t expect the people around you to just suck it up when you hurt them because you’re mentally ill.
spiraling further and self-deprecation/calling urself a monster also isn’t an apology. an apology does not involve another person comforting you for your harmful actions.
same with claiming that you are a failure and are doomed to never change or improve. Apology should not involve the other person comforting you and rooting for you, and essentially being your cheerleader.
Same if you claim that not doing abusive things to someone repeatedly is “so hard” while also refusing to examine your behavior, to create a plan of action to help you cope with your mental illness in a healthy way, or by refusing to seek help in any shape or form. Twice as bad if you expect the person you abused to be your mental health therapist/processor.